The Day We Rewarded Our Daughter for Mediocre Behavior

Lydia has had her ups and downs at school. We've struggled with poor behavior (mostly not doing what she's supposed to be doing and ignoring efforts to get her on track). We've found a system of rewards and consequences that works well for her and have often bribed her with rewards for a good week at school. It works well and she has come a long way from last year.

Audrey has had absolutely no behavior problems at all. She is a star student. Teachers love her. Other parents compliment us. She loves school and gets off the bus with a huge smile on her face, ready to tell us all about her day. Her teacher has different levels of behavior, with Double Outstanding Choices at the top, followed by Outstanding Choices, Good Choices, Ready to Learn, Turn Your Day Around, and then a level or two lower than that. I don't even know what the lower levels are because Audrey has never ended her day on anything lower than Good Choices. She comes home so excited to tell us what she was on for the day, and even Charlie questions her when she gets off the bus, "Outstanding Choices today, Audrey? Or Good Choices?" Audrey tells us all about the kids who end up on Ready to Learn or lower and talks about them like they have fallen from grace.

Yesterday, Audrey got moved to Turn Your Day Around for talking during carpet time. It was devastating. She eventually moved up to Ready to Learn, but it was still the worst day in her little 4K life. She got off the bus so upset and cried when she told Jayson what happened. Jayson emailed her teacher about something unrelated, but mentioned Audrey's day, and when Mr. K responded, he told Jayson how upset Audrey was at the end of the day and he had talked to her about how it's OK and tomorrow would be a new day and she could do better. He also seemed to feel awful that she felt so bad about it.

When Jayson told me about Audrey's mood when she got off the bus and forwarded me the email, I felt so bad for her. If only she knew what we dealt with with Lydia. Then she would realize that in the grand scheme of things, she was actually doing an amazing job.

So, we did the only rational thing. We took her out for ice cream. We told her how great her behavior was and how proud we are of her for always being so good. Her sisters also had good days, so they got ice cream too. Ice cream for everybody! All because Audrey behaved just OK.

Lydia: Future Internet Phenomenon

Lydia asked Grandma Deb for a digital camera for her birthday, and Grandma Deb did not disappoint. Lydia is obsessed with the camera and is plowing through batteries like crazy. I got a chance to take a look at her pictures and found that she's pretty much got the digital picture thing down. She asked me to put them on the internet. So, here are the classic pictures that every internet poster needs. Here we go:

1) Picture of a picture.

2) Picture of food:

3) Picture of friend making a "duck face":

4) Creeping on the neighbors:

5) Your parents looking stupid:

6) Selfie.

She's ready for Facebook!